Sunday, February 15, 2009

Andrew Carnegie: The Mission Statement


From his journal:

"Thirty three and an income of $50,000 per annum. By this time 2 years from now I can arrange all my business as to make no effort to increase fortune but spend the surplus each year for benevolent purposes. Settle in Oxford and get a thorough education, making the acquaintance of literary men -this will take three year's active work -pay especial attention to speaking in public. Settle then in London and purchase a controlling interest in some newspaper or live review and give the general management of it attention, taking a part in public matters especially those connected with education and improvement of the poorer classes. Man must have an idol - the amassing of wealth is one of the worst species of idolatry. No idol more debasing than the worship of money. Whatever I engage in I must push inordinately, therefore I should be careful to choose that life which will be the most elevating in its character. To continue much longer overwhelmed by business cares and with most of my thoughts wholly upon the way to make more money in the shortest time, must degrade me beyond hope of permanent recovery. I will resign businesses at thirty five, but during the ensuing two years, I wish to spend the afternoons in securing instruction, and in reading systematically."

Carnegie didn't get it done - in two years. It actually took three decades for his vision of a life of service to happen.

The amazing thing to me - is the amount of clarity Carnegie had at the age of 33.

The above is from the book, Halftime, by Bob Buford.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 748

HappyUP!!! - 75
Why it happened - that's how many it took to get around the course today
Why it makes me happy - I didn't hit it that good but this was the best score of the year. A good short game always comes in handy.

HappyUP!!! - sand play
Why it happened - I asked the pros for a tip last week
Why it makes me happy - they told me some things in the pro shop. I went out to the practice bunker the next two days and worked on it. My technique had definitely been flawed. Today, I was in two traps....and got it up and down both times. I got some training...I worked on it...and it paid off today...HappyUP!!!

HappyUP!!! - chatting with my Minnesota friend
Why it happened - we were both on Facebook
Why it makes me happy - this guy is a brother from a different mother....no question about it. We did some fun IM-ing.

JollyJottings

Good weather
Sandy on 2
Chip in on 5
Up and down on 7,8, and 9
Sandy on 13
Birdie on 15
Up and down on 17
6 iron out of the bunker on 18

Friday, February 13, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 747

HappyUP!!! - golf
Why it happened - got a break in the weather
Why it makes me happy - we had written it off...then the weather cleared...kind of. We got in 18 holes in dry weather. As we were wrapping it up on 18, it started to sprinkle

HappyUP!!! - golfing with the Boz
Why it happened - he had today off
Why it makes me happy - Boz cracks me up. I hadn't golfed with him in a month....and he played good!

HappyUP!!! - golf shots
Why it happened - I keep working on it
Why it makes me happy - good up and downs on the first three holes, a nice wedge on 4, a good 4 iron on 7, a nice drive/wedge on 8, a GREAT cut 6 iron on 10, a SUPER par featuring a stellar pitch shot on 14, a nutted 4 iron on 16........it's why I play.

HappyUP!!! - rain
Why it happened - it's a God thing
Why it makes me happy - waking up to it is always a nice sound.....and we desperately need the rain.



JollyJottings

Waking up to rain
Going to breakfast
A break in the weather...and golf
Facebooking with some friends
Writing about Obamanation

Thursday, February 12, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 746

HappyUP!!! - part 1 of annual physical
Why it happened - it was scheduled
Why it makes me happy - all systems AOK.....wheeeeeee!
Bold
HappyUP!!! - mentoring
Why it happened - it's a Thursday thing
Why it makes me happy - I keep making new friends as I pass along what I know

HappyUP!!! - facebook
Why it happened - I added a couple of friends
Why it makes me happy - there is something neat about reconnecting with people that, without Facebook, you would never hear from again.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 745

HappyUP!!! - an unexpected round of golf
Why it happened - the rains let up
Why it makes me happy - it was tough.....lots of wind but that makes it a little more challenging. I hit some really bad shots in the conditions...expected. I didn't expect to hit the pin on 4 for a near eagle!

HappyUP!!! - hitting the stick
Why it happened - I hit a great shot
Why it makes me happy - it almost went in. It bounced back a few feet for a tap in birdie. This was a wedge after a great drive in the wind. HappyUP!!!

HappyUP!!! - smoked mid irons
Why it happened - I was very loose
Why it makes me happy - I hit a perfect 4 iron and a perfect 5 iron. You can play some rounds without hitting any perfect mid/long irons. I got two today.

HappyUP!!! - coffee conversations
Why it happened - it's on my weekly calender
Why it makes me happy - it was good chatting with my friend but also with a group of guys that regularly has coffee where we do.

HappyUP!!! - phone call from N
Why it happened - N called me
Why it makes me happy - it's good catching up with this person. It had been a couple of weeks.

HappyUP!!! - Facebook friends
Why it happened - it's what Facebook is about
Why it makes me happy - Facebook is perfect for staying in touch with acquaintances that should be friends. I found about 3 of them today.

JollyJottings

Coffee
Talking with some guys
An unexpected round of golf
Being joined by a good player
Near eagle
Hybrid on 6...8 iron on 8....7 iron on 9
5 iron on 11
3 wood on 12
Hybrid on 13
4 iron on 14
15th hole
Phone call from a friend

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 744

HappyUP!!! - new member
Why it happened - it was a Toastmaster Tuesday
Why it makes me happy - we keep growing the membership....it's what it is all about

HappyUP!!! - my speech
Why it happened - it was my turn
Why it makes me happy - I gave a pretty good rendition of "Be Impeccable With Your Word" in a 5 -6 minute span. No question.....I am a work in progress as much as anyone. Today's speech was good for the audience....and for me.

HappyUP!!! - golf with my golf partner
Why it happened - he wanted to play today instead of tomorrow
Why it makes me happy - I would probably have been playing alone today....I may have filled in with another game....but I like playing with my golf buddy.

HappyUP!!! - invitation to the State Amateur qualifying
Why it happened - the NCGA took notice
Why it makes me happy - I qualified for the State Am once. To qualify, you have to meet eligibility which I now do.

JollyJottings

Toastmasters...new member
Speech
Golf with buddy
Hole 1
5 iron on 5....chip on 7....putt on 12....hybrid on 13.....8 iron pitch on 15...drive on 18
New Facebook friends

Monday, February 09, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 743

HappyUP!!! - lunch with JJ
Why it happened - we set it up
Why it makes me happy - I used to work with JJ. I got all caught up on the family and how work is going....and had a great pot roast sandwich

HappyUP!!! - the ATM
Why it happened - Wells Fargo has good ones
Why it makes me happy - do you know how amazing it is with what you can do with one of these machines. You can even get images of checks you deposit...right there. Yes, this technology has been around for more than a year but it makes me happy every time I go to the money machine.

HappyUP!!! - chipping
Why it happened - I showed some discipline
Why it makes me happy - some people whittle on a piece of wood...or knit...or one of a million things. I could chip golf balls all day long. There is so much creativity involved....and it is going to make me a better golfer. The short game is everything.

HappyUP!!! - wrote my speech
Why it happened - I am speaking tomorrow
Why it makes me happy - I used the first of the Four Agreements here as the topic....so I could spend all my time on honing the speech for quality and not thinking so much about structure. The structure was already written out.

JollyJottings

Chipping
Sunshine
Grocery store
Bank

IF....Wisdom by Rudyard Kipling


It just doesn't get - any better than this.

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream--and not make dreams your master,
If you can think--and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!

--Rudyard Kipling

Sunday, February 08, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 742

HappyUP!!! - golf finish
Why it happened - I made a couple of putts
Why it makes me happy - many times, I have gotten to the 15th tee and thought, "I could pull this round together with a 2 under finish." I didn't think that today because this round was gone ......and, voila, the 2 under finish happened. I hit some quality shots but the putter came through.

HappyUP!!! - meeting my friend
Why it happened - we made a plan
Why it makes me happy - it was good to do some catching up over an afternoon refreshment. I also found out some things that I didn't know.

HappyUP!!! - rain
Why it happened - who knows....it hasn't been
Why it makes me happy - it held off and gave us a nice day but it is starting to come down now... and we need it here in Nor Cal. It makes me happy because I am pretty sure that I'll want a drink a bit later in the year.

HappyUP!!! - Grammy Awards
Why it happened - it's an annual thing
Why it makes me happy - listening to music used to be a big deal to me. I don't keep track of anything current now. With this show, I at least get to hear what is popular.

JollyJottings

Rain
Meeting my friend
Golf shots
Par...Birdie...Par...Birdie....finish

Saturday, February 07, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 741

HappyUP!!! - birdie on one
Why it happened - I played it perfectly
Why it makes me happy - we were on an up tee....so I smacked a three wood off the tee, hit it again off the fairway, and got within range of my 60 degree wedge....which I hit to about 2 1/2 fee. A good start is a superHappyUP!!!

HappyUP!!! - new golf partners
Why it happened - one of our regulars didn't show
Why it makes me happy - I got to meet a couple of guys that I had heard of at the club. I also got pared again with another good guy that I played with last fall. Fellowship.

HappyUP!!! - getting repaid
Why it happened - my friend is doing OK
Why it makes me happy - c'mon...you've lent out money. Admit it....it's a good feeling when it comes back.

JollyJottings

Golf partners
Birdie on the first hole
Lunch with my buddy
Cash repayment
Arranging to meet a friend
Two cats on the lap

Friday, February 06, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 740



HappyUP!!! - Bob Sutton's Blog Picture
Why it happened - I was getting caught up on this author's blog
Why it makes me happy -it may not be a good example of being impeccable with one's word....but it is funny. I spent years in the mortgage world and I have a lot of realtor friends. I could just imagine what they would see if they saw this sign (if you are the neighbor, remember the Four Agreements.....Take Nothing Personally)

HappyUP!!! - birdie on 14
Why it happened - I hit two OK shots....and then an awesome putt
Why it makes me happy - I was kind of a load to my partner today. Knocking in the 25 footer on this tough hole helped the effort.

HappyUP!!! - stock market rally
Why it happened - who knows
Why it makes me happy - we actually netted out a good week in the financial markets. Can we start seeing some gains here?

HappyUP!!! - golfing with Wah and RC
Why it happened - Wah set it up
Why it makes me happy - I always play with R...today, we played with these two other good players.....we even won a couple of bets!

JollyJottings


Breakfast
Driving range
Getting golf in
Drive/Wedge on 4
Drive/3 wood 5
Flop/Putt on 13
Putt on 14
6 iron on 16
Pitch on 18
Stock market rally

Thursday, February 05, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 739

HappyUP!!! - visit with a friend
Why it happened - my friend needed a favor
Why it makes me happy - it's just nice to be free and able to do things for people

HappyUP!!! - Oracle Toastmasters
Why it happened - it's Thursday and I volunteered
Why it makes me happy - I am "second chair" on this mentoring job....which means that I don't do much....perfect for a guy like me! LOL It's actually nice to sit back, make some notes, and just sprinkle a few seasonings upon the group. These are some good people.

HappyUP!!! - chicken sandwich
Why it happened - I had leftovers
Why it makes me happy - I never have made a grilled chicken/pastrami/cheese sandwich....and I have never seen it on a menu. I must say...it was tasty!

JollyJottings

Chicken sandwich
Oracle
A little rain

Wednesday, February 04, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 738

HappyUP!!! - favor from a buddy
Why it happened - I asked...he said yes
Why it makes me happy - this guy had the perfect tools and we did what we needed to do in a snap! Plus, it was just good to see him. I used to work with him and hadn't seen him in a long time.

HappyUP!!! - breakfast with E
Why it happened - we do this regularly
Why it makes me happy - we had food and good conversation about business and life

HappyUP!!! - beautiful day on the course
Why it happened - I play
Why it makes me happy - it was just beautiful to be outside. The golf wasn't much to brag about. I hit a few very good shots. You can't hit it well every day. I still could have rescued the round with a few putts. I think I am on the verge of playing lights out again.

HappyUP!!! - coffee with T
Why it happened - we have it on the calendar
Why it makes me happy - it was brief but we had a fun chat.

JollyJottings

7 Negative Emotions
Coffee with T
Breakfast with E
Beautiful Day
Golf
Shorts
Up n down on 8....hybrid on 17....2 putt on 11....wedge on 15

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 737

HappyUP!!! - first one on the course
Why it happened - who knows...no one was at the course
Why it makes me happy - I teed it up with no one in front of me. I have been walking but decided to ride so I could play fast.....in two hours

HappyUP!!! - pitch in on 3
Why it happened - I've been practicing
Why it makes me happy - I hit 200 pitch shots on Monday. The shot I had today was a little tricky but it was hit perfectly and fell nicely into the cup. It's cool when you watch a chip roll and you KNOW it's going in.

HappyUP!!! - talking with N
Why it happened - he called me after I text him
Why it makes me happy - his company got in the news today....and not for a good reason. We had some laughs about it.

HappyUP!!! - visit with my nephew
Why it happened - he was dropping something off
Why it makes me happy - I don't see this guy enough so it was nice to chat a little bit.

JollyJottings

First one on the course
Chatting with the greenskeeper
Chipping in on 3
7 iron on 5....4 iron on 6...9 iron on 8....9 iron on 15.....7 iron on 16
Talking with N

Hey....Any Room at the Inn?

Awhile back - I made a list of things that would be likely results of the economic squeeze.

My number one item - people moving in together. Multi-family households in a single family house would become more of a norm.

While kids have always - had the revolving door with parents as the younger set try to get established in this world, this downturn would lead to something more. I even foresaw that you would see non-related families moving in together. Brothers and sisters was on the list. Aging parents was a given.

I found the article in USAToday-today to be very interesting. It talks about this very phenomenon.

The article described something I hadn't thought about - divorce rates are falling because couples can't sell the home they are in. Even if they could, the cost of setting up separate households would be prohibitive. Even though many of these couples are living a "War of the Roses" existence with boundaries/schedules set up, I see nothing wrong with a little "cooling off" period under one roof. Who knows? Maybe these people can work it out.

Many of the newer homes - that have been built are much larger than traditional homes. When I grew up, a 2000 sq foot house was considered quite large. To achieve that same status today, you would need to go to 3500-4000 sq ft. Where did this "need for more" come from? I don't think average family size increased. It only makes

The comment that really perked my interest was this one - "moving in with relatives can be demoralizing, humbling, dehumanizing -but a lot of people don't have a choice. You lose that sense of independence, privacy, and self-esteem. You lose somewhat of your identity."

I get what the guy is saying - but since when did living in more space than you need be a vital fuel to one's self-esteem? As said, I "get it" and I am not arguing that this doesn't happen.

The better question - WHY would anyone allow their stuff to define who they are?....even to ourselves?

Monday, February 02, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 736

HappyUP!!! - Don't Make Assumptions
Why it happened - I'm doing a series
Why it makes me happy - I don't know why it took me the time to get to writing this one. I thought it would be a much longer piece than it was. I was happy with the output

HappyUP!!! - talking with MM
Why it happened - I did some detective work when an e-mail bounced back
Why it makes me happy - MM has had some issues come up but they are being dealt with in a constructive manner. M is in good spirits

HappyUP!!! - making contact with J
Why it happened - we are on Facebook
Why it makes me happy - I'll be stopping by to visit J.....and J is going to do me a favor and take care of a little niggling issue that I have been tolerating. J has the tools for the job.

HappyUP!!! - catching up with JJ
Why it happened - we had to cancel lunch
Why it makes me happy - love JJ...wish we could have done lunch...but our phone chat was terrific!

JollyJottings

Making contact with a buddy to do me a favor...have to thank Facebook for that
Talking with my friend, MM
Talking with JJ
E-mail from T
Gorgeous afternoon
Afternoon nap with Stogie on the lap
Don't Make Assumptions written
Good feedback

Open Happiness - is Coke the new Dalai Lama?


Many of you may have seen the Best Buy campaign - that said, "hey...you! Come in here. Buy an expensive electronics thing that you probably really don't need....you'll be happier!"

OK - it didn't really say that. That was my translation.

Still, I find it interesting - that so many marketing minds have now shifted over to flat out putting the word and concept of happiness in their promotions.

Happiness has always been - the basis of most consumer advertising....but it has been subliminal.

Now, Coke has a new drone - "Open Happiness"

Coke must have done some heavy market research - you don't go plunking down millions of dollars for 30-second spots without serious data to back up the decision.

One could even argue - that Coke is the best marketer in the world. They have to be in the top 10. So, Coke spends all this money to find out what people want....

...it's to be happier - and what says happiness like sucking on some carbonated, flavored water....or getting a new big screen.......or buying a Volkswagon?

I have another idea - and I'll save you some dough and some calories.

Do your HappyUP!!!'s

Four Agreements - Don't Make Assumptions


Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best


(Remember....to catch any of this series that you might have missed, just click the "labels" icon below on the website where it says "Four Agreements" )

Directly from the author - "With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life"

Whoa! That's a pretty heavy statement - and the first thing to understand is that you make assumptions about everything...and BELIEVE they are the truth.

Let's go to an extremely literal thing you do everyday - you come up to a red light but you are moving. It changes to green just as you are coming upon it. You make an assumption that all of the cross traffic clearly saw that they had a red light. You make an assumption that they will abide by the law. You happily speed through...

...but, what if your assumption is wrong - your life will change dramatically for the worse in an instant. When I hit that "just changed green light" situation, my head is on a swivel. I may or may not avoid someone that ran that red but I am ready to take an action that may save a life...mine or the other driver.

OK....a very literal example - let's build from there. Let's say you are in a relationship. The other person knows you well. You assume that your partner knows what you think and want and that you don't have to say it. They know you that well is what you assume. If they don't do what they should, you feel violated or hurt and either think or say, "they should have known."

The result - sadness and drama.

These assumptions go on all day long - with children, co-workers, bosses, etc.

I challenge you - write down "assumptions" somewhere where you will see it all day. Count or make a quick note of all the assumptions you make. Question your assumptions.

Yes, doing this exercise will take some effort - but you need to understand one other very important concept and one that this blog is based on....

Happiness and increasing it's level - is HARD WORK. It is why our constitution says, "....the PURSUIT of happiness." While the pursuit can and should be fun and meaningful, the word "pursuit" should connotate that effort is required.

How do you stop making assumptions? - you ask questions. If you don't understand why something happened, ask the courageous question to find out. When you fail to do this step, you get mad, mope, and behave poorly. You become a victim.

Find your voice - to ask for what you want. Everyone has the right to say "yes" or say "no" and all have the right to ask.

When communication is clear - all relationships change. This is what I want...this is what you want.

Here is a real insane kicker - you may not know what you want. "I don't know what I want but it sure isn't this," may even go through your mind. Yet, you assume someone else will figure out what you want. This is called a recipe for disaster.

Saying you will make no assumptions - sounds easy but we do the opposite based on habits and routines. Awareness and understanding is great but ACTION is what is required.

Action is asking questions - make it a goal to ask some questions today of people around you that you wouldn't have asked before. If you are at work as you read this, try it out and think of an assumption about a co-worker that you know and ask a question. Do the same when you get home.

Do It Now! - Make note of what you find out in your journal. You should walk away anywhere from amazed to enlightened with your findings.

Make this one change - and as Don Miguel Ruiz says, "you will completely transform your life."

Sunday, February 01, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 735

HappyUP!!! - three birdies
Why it happened - I hit some shots
Why it makes me happy - these were all great birdies...nothing cheap....no long putts....just awfully good golf shots
Bold
HappyUP!!! - "Shoulda" birdies
Why it happened - I hit some shots
Why it makes me happy - I had a 10 footer on one, a 10 footer on 4, a 10 footer on 5, an 8 footer on 6, and a 8 footer on 12....it would have been nice to make one of those putts but I have to focus on having the opportunities. On the day, I was 3 for 8 on birdie opportunities.

HappyUP!!! - weigh in
Why it happened - it's Sunday
Why it makes me happy - held it at the same as last week....which is four pounds lighter than the beginning of the year. This is without trying too hard. I'll make some modifications this week to try to keep things dipping down. The less I weigh, the better I feel.

HappyUP!!! - insurance
Why it happened - it's the first of the month
Why it makes me happy - my new coverage should save me some dough....always a HappyUP!!! There was also some confusion....I was uncovered for the last week or so. I got a new appreciation for people that live without health insurance every day. It's a bit scary.

HappyUP!!! - SuperBowl
Why it happened - it's an annual thing
Why it makes me happy - there is nothing better than a thrilling game....for all the stakes...with both teams laying it on the line and playing their hearts out.....only to have one of those hearts ripped out. No StuporBowl this year.

HappyUP!!! - Rory McElroy
Why it happened - he won the Dubai Desert Classic
Why it makes me happy - we have a 19 year old golf prodigy on the horizon. By winning this prestigious tourney, he steps up in the eyes of the world of golf. People are saying, "this guy is better at 19 than Tiger Woods was." McElroy does not have 3 US Amateur titles on his C.V. but he has a professional win when, at the same age, Tiger was still slapping it around at Stanford and didn't have a pro victory.



JollyJottings

Weather
First hole
Fourth Hole
Fifth, Sixth, Seventh, Eighth
Birdie on 7
Birdie on 14
Birdie on 15
FBR Golf
Super Bowl
Crappy Eating
Weight

Saturday, January 31, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 734

HappyUP!!! - meeting GB
Why it happened - he was drawn to be one of my partners
Why it makes me happy - I used to do business over the phone with GB. We never met. After playing 14 holes, he told one of the other partners who he was and what he did. It was then that I went, "hey! I know you!" It was definitely an epiphany...and a HappyUP!!!

HappyUP!!! - 7 straight birdies
Why it happened - we strung some holes together
Why it makes me happy - everyone on the team chipped in....and I definitely held up my end. I was probably the anchor today on our 4 man team. It was a team effort and we came in the money.

HappyUP!!! - what a gorgeous day
Why it happened - it's weather
Why it makes me happy - I was dressed lightly.....and hot....and it's January. What a gorgeous day for a golf tournament

HappyUP!!! - lunch
Why it happened - I had leftovers
Why it makes me happy - I was heading home from the golf course and I was starving. I remembered something....I had BBQ'd some chicken thighs day before yesterday and I had some TraderJoe's French Lemonade in the fridge. A chicken sandwich with my favorite drink ...a delicious HappyUP!!!

HappyUP!!! - Bourne Supremacy
Why it happened - I was channel surfing
Why it makes me happy - I have seen this movie a couple of times.......and it lured me in again. It's just a cool movie.

JollyJottings

My golf partners
Meeting GB
Playing a solid round in our tournament
A beautiful day
Talking with RC

Friday, January 30, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 733

HappyUP!!! - Breakfast with E
Why it happened - I set it up
Why it makes me happy - good food and conversation

HappyUP!!! - golfing
Why it happened - I golf
Why it makes me happy - I lost some focus out there but 1) I hit some quality shots 2) we were joined by a nice guy...the Colonel 3) being out in the weather was tremendous

HappyUP!!! - meeting up with my friend, C
Why it happened - I set it up
Why it makes me happy - it was great to see C, find out about a recent journey....and find out what else has been happening in C's life.

JollyJottings

Breakfast with E
Golfing weather
Being joined by a nice guy
Hitting the first 5 greens...and 7 out of 9 on the front side
3 wood on 1...6 iron on 2...wedge on 4...hybrid on 5...drive/8 iron on 6....4 iron on 7....hybrid on 8....8 iron on 9....wedge on 12.....7 iron on 16.....bunker shot on 18
Hitting balls after playing
Talking with the head pro and shop assistant
Meeting up with my friend C

Thursday, January 29, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 732

HappyUP!!! - mentoring
Why it happened - I volunteered
Why it makes me happy - this is going to a HappyUP!!! for many weeks to come. Who knows..the group is progressing nicely...a HappyUP!!!...they may not need my help that long. It's nice to be in a room...in a meeting...where people are serious about improving and being one of two people in the room that can help them.

HappyUP!!! - dishwasher
Why it happened - I got off my duff
Why it makes me happy - this is one of those home improvement projects that actually went really well. I can do things around the house but, many times, it's a circus of having to make trips to the hardware store. Not today!

HappyUP!!! - dinner
Why it happened - a friend and I grabbed a bite
Why it makes me happy - breaking bread, good conversation, and a restaraunt I hadn't been to.



JollyJottings

Oracle
Dishwasher pull
Driving the ScottRod
Dinner

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 731

HappyUP!!! - birdie on 18
Why it happened - who knows...it was a tough day in the wind
Why it makes me happy - I didn't hit the ball very purely today....which makes it tough to play in the wind. When I hit a great drive and a 9 iron to 3 feet, it made the rest of the day worthwhile. It's not all the time that you get a kick in birdie on a par 4....especially 18 at our club. It was a nice finish to the day.

HappyUP!!! - seeing a friend
Why it happened - my friend called to meet me for dinner
Why it makes me happy - grabbing a bite with a friend, I have found, is always a highlight of the day...especially when nothing too heavy is going on. Good meal...good conversation.

HappyUP!!! - the stock market
Why it happened - I'm not sure what was the deal today
Why it makes me happy - money isn't everything but, in these times, it's good to see the value of the assets climb.

HappyUP!!! - pitch shot on 9
Why it happened - I have some decent touch
Why it makes me happy - 9 plays tough for me. I have a heck of a time putting my ball on that green in two shots. It's a tough green because you have to be on the right place on the green. I wasn't there today....I missed in a bad spot. I hit an awesome shot up the hill that rolled up for a gimmie.

JollyJottings

Birdie on 18
Hybrid cut out of the rough
3 wood out of the rough
Hybrid on 14
6 iron on 13
Wedge on 4
Pitch shots on 2 and 9
Visit with a friend
Yogurt

What Do You Have to Hide?

The Obama - was just on TV pitching his "Recovery.org" website where all of the money that is being spent will be available for everyone to view.

It reminds me - of a mantra we had in my workplace.....the Open Kimono.

Unfortunately - it ended up being more of a mantra than what actually ended up happening.

The idea was tremendously - well received. Everyone wanted to know what was going on........ with other people and other departments.

With all the shenanigans - we have seen in our economic collapse that drove the country to elect a president that probably would not have made it without it, there appears to be a thirst for transparency.
Bold
Yet......will you be transparent? - "Be the change you seek" is an old adage as YOU are the only thing you have the ability to change.

What do you have to hide? - this is not to be read with a "what the heck, what have I got to hide?" attitude. It's a serious question. What are you hiding?......and will you be willing to bring it out and let the light of day shine on it.

If you aren't willing - you don't really want transparency.

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 730

HappyUP!!! - toastmasters
Why it happened - it was an on week
Why it makes me happy - we got a new member....we had an interested guest....and 2 great speeches....THAT is a perfect meeting

HappyUP!!! - breakfast with J
Why it happened - J set it up
Why it makes me happy - I love J to death but it's been forever since we got together. We talked for a couple of hours...great stuff

HappyUP!!! - putting session
Why it happened - I made myself
Why it makes me happy - practicing putting is not my favorite thing to do. Since starting back with golf, I would say I have only gone out for about 2-3 serious putting practice sessions. I ground for a good 45 minutes today. I need another session tomorrow. I think I am on to something. I hit a GREAT putt on 8 that I don't think I would have hit without the session. I made solid shorter putts on 5 and 6 as well.

HappyUP!!! - ball striking
Why it happened - I had a good range session
Why it makes me happy - I feel like I am really using the big muscles hitting through my irons. There is a big difference when you start striking it with the shoulders rather than the arms

HappyUP!!! - 7 iron into 2
Why it happened - I thought it through
Why it makes me happy - the pin was up front. You have to stay under the hole or you have a miserable downhill putt. To do this, you have to accept coming up short. I hit the shot a touch heavy but with lots of power. This left me right on the front edge. If I had hit the shot perfectly, it would have been pin high. It was a thinking man's play that gave me a shot at birdie....wish I had hit one of those perfect putts here.

HappyUP!!! - shots
Why it happened - practice
Why it makes me happy - anytime you hit a solid shot in golf, it's a HappyUP!!! in the moment. Today, in 9 holes, I had a bagful!

HappyUP!!! - Wah and the kids
Why it happened - I saw him on the range as I was leaving
Why it makes me happy - love Wah!....it was cute watching his kids smack balls on the range. He was being a good dad.

JollyJottings

New member
2 great speeches
Breakfast with J.E.
Hitting balls
Putting session
Weather
Walking 9 holes
More power with my irons due to a better turn...using the big muscles
9 iron on 1....7 iron on 2....hybrid on 3...pitch on 3....wedge from bunker on 4...bunker shot 6...
....5 iron on 7....drive/9 iron/putt on 8....drive on 9
Rib-eye

Monday, January 26, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 729 - last Monday, Jan. 2009



HappyUP!!! - An Obamanation
Why it happened - I heard him on TV
Why it makes me happy - "the financial crisis that we have inherited is serious." I caught our president violating one of the Four Agreements. It wasn't required that he do the finger pointing...nobody is blaming him for this. He is another guy that doesn't get it....I am sick and tired of finger pointing. I think a lot of Americans are as well. Anyway, it made me happy to catch a slip in character.

HappyUP!!! - filling the calender
Why it happened - I have hungry friends
Why it makes me happy - I'll have lots of bread breaking and meaningful conversations over the next week.

HappyUP!!! - talking with the bro
Why it happened - I called him
Why it makes me happy - he is involved in a new venture.....and it seems to be doing OK. HappyUP!!!

HappyUP!!! - live chat on Facebook
Why it happened - I just discovered this feature
Why it makes me happy - I was able to have a couple of snappy conversations with friends...fun staying in touch!

JollyJottings


Lunch with J set up
Breakfast with E on the calender
Talking with the bro
Gorgeous weather
Obama-nation

Sunday, January 25, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 728

HappyUP!!! - weekly weigh in
Why it happened - it's Sunday
Why it makes me happy - I thought I may have added a little more Nutster to the Nutster this week. As it turns out, it was about even from last Sunday. January is off to a good start in this department.

HappyUP!!! - message from J
Why it happened - J wants to have some breakfast
Why it makes me happy - I haven't seen J in forever. We'll get to do some catching up over breakfast on Tuesday. Something to look forward to.

HappyUP!!! - text from Wah
Why it happened - he was looking for a golf game
Why it makes me happy - we had a spot open and we always like it when Wah comes along.

HappyUP!!! - standing in the cartshed
Why it happened - it started raining when we were on the driving range
Why it makes me happy - Boz, Wah, and I got to do some non-golf chattering as we waited until the real HappyUP!!! came.....the rains stopped and we got in 18 holes when, once again, the weatherman was saying it wasn't going to happen.

HappyUP!!! - lots of great shots
Why it happened - I'm still working on it
Why it makes me happy - I hit about 8 pure shots from the fairway today....some of them even went the right distance! The putter continues to fail me but that just means a few hours on the putting green. This is the charm of golf....you hit it bad but putt well. You hit it well and then putt poorly. I think I can get the putter squared away while the ball striking is going well.

JollyJottings

Text from Wah
Outlaw Josie Wales
Sleeping a bit late
Getting to play golf....rain on the range
3 shots on one
Wedge on 2
7 iron on 5
5 iron on 6
Hybrid on 9
9 iron on 10
3 wood on 11
6 iron on 13
Pitch on 14
6 iron on 17
7 iron on 18
Hearing from L
A followup from A

Saturday, January 24, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 727

HappyUP!!! - another solid round
Why it happened - cheated the rain
Why it makes me happy - if I had putted half decently today, I could have challenged par. With the golf course that I play, a couple over is like par on the courses I used to play. I'm getting closer to achieving the first level of the goal

HappyUP!!! - shots
Why it happened - getting better
Why it makes me happy - very few things feel better than pure shots. Ben Hogan said he was lucky to get one or two a round. My standard may be lower than ol Ben't right now but I had more than a couple.

HappyUP!!! - invitation
Why it happened - I have nice friends
Why it makes me happy - it's nice to have some unexpected fun laying out there in the future.

HappyUP!!! - e-mail from another friend
Why it happened - today is a big event for my friend
Why it makes me happy - I am sure my friend will pull it off. My friend was gracious in thanking me for some minor assistance....but it's all my friend's doings to make it happen. I can't wait to hear how things turn out.

JollyJottings

Cheating the rain
Getting a comment posted
Picking up around the house
4 iron into 5
Flop shot on 9
9 iron on 10
Pitch shot on 12
6 iron on 12
wedge on 15
7 iron on 16...and the putt
Flop shot on 17 and 18
Drive on 18

Friday, January 23, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 726....Swingin in the Rain...

....just swingin in the rain -

HappyUP!!! - playing some golf
Why it happened - we decided to take a chance on the rain
Why it makes me happy - my golf partner and I were joined on the tee by a couple of buddies.
It didn't rain on us significantly. At the end of the day when it didn't look like we would play, I put another solid round in the books

HappyUP!!! - great sleep
Why it happened - who knows
Why it makes me happy - waking up to the rain...refreshed...a wonderful start to the day

HappyUP!!! - two birdies
Why it happened - some solid play
Why it makes me happy - I play a tough course. I am averaging over a birdie a round now. I really should have had 4 birdies today....it will come. The course was wet...the course was playing long. When golf season hits, I am going to be ready for it.

HappyUP!!! - great 4 iron
Why it happened - I've been working on my game
Why it makes me happy - there is something about hitting a long iron on a par three right at the flag that may be one of the best feelings in golf. There is also the chance for an ace....this one ended up 5 feet from the hole.

HappyUP!!! - I am terrific
Why it happened - I have good friends
Why it makes me happy - while I try not to take things personally, it's always great to have someone pass along a nice word of affirmation like this.

HappyUP!!! - breakfast
Why it happened - I was hungry
Why it makes me happy - my favorite waitress told me all about her pole dancing lesson that a lady gave her and all of her girlfriends....c'mon....you know that is a HappyUP!!! What can I say? I'm a guy!

JollyJottings

Great sleep
First three shots on 1
Birdie on 5
4 iron on 7
8 iron on 10
Hybrid on 11
Pitch on 12
Birdie on 13
Hybrid on 17

Thursday, January 22, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 725




HappyUP!!!
- waking up to the sound of rain
Why it happened - we are finally getting some weather
Why it makes me happy - it has been a dry winter.....and the last two haven't been overly wet either. I get stoked every time it rains because of that. It also is neat to lie in bed, hear the drops, and know that you don't have to go out in that today.

HappyUP!!! - mentoring
Why it happened - I took on a project
Why it makes me happy - I really like the Toastmasters Club that I have volunteered to help get up to speed. I had done this with another club years ago and had forgot how enjoyable this is. Meeting new people who are eager to learn......when you have most of the answers.....heaven.

HappyUP!!! - a quick 9 holes
Why it happened - I said, "what the heck"
Why it makes me happy - it was rainy yesterday. After my mentoring session (see above), I decided to buzz over to the golf course to get in 9 under cloudy skies. I popped in a cart and ended up catching up with a couple of very good players who invited me to finish the 9 with them...good golfing companionship is always a HappyUP!!!

JollyJottings

Sleeping in
The sound of the rain
Mentoring
Sneaking in 9 holes and catching up to J and S

Four Agreements - Don't Take Anything Personally...Part 2


Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best


In the previous segment - we were delving into not taking anything personally because the "stuff" that gets flung your way by others is not your stuff. It's the stuff of the thrower because....well....uh.... he/she was the one that threw it.

People don't come over - and grab your stuff and then throw it at you. (Remember, we are talking about words here....to those of you that have been through a nasty divorce, I am sure you have literally had your stuff thrown at you. In that case, I hope you ducked well.)

You are the target of the toss - because of a fear that is haunting the other person. It could be pressure they are under from their boss....their spouse...their kids....any of the places that you used to feel pressure from until you adopted the Four Agreements.

Let's move on to yourself - you shouldn't take anything personally from yourself either.

"Whoa...Nutster....what are you talking about" - I can hear you already. Hang with me for a second.

Most of you are familiar - with that fine Christian tenet that says, "thou shall not judge." It's a great piece of wisdom. Many of my Christian friends are surprised when I mention that line includes themselves. One could make a case that it's first priority would be to not judge oneself.

Have you ever thought as to WHY we shouldn't judge - sure, it's easy to pass it off and say, "because that is what the Bible says," or "it's not nice," or one of a lot of reasons. None of those stop us from judging others or ourselves. Let me throw another reason at you.....

The bottom line - we really aren't that good at it. God is the only one qualified for the job!

There just is no way to know - why people are who they are....even yourself. It's part of the great mystery of life.

You talk to yourself - all day long your mind is yak yak yakking....

...but once in awhile - you actually hear "that voice." According to Don Miguel Ruiz, the Toltecs called these voices the Allies. The Europeans, Africans, and Indians called them Gods.

The mind can talk and listen to itself - part of the mind listening...part of the mind talking. Get 1000 parts of your mind speaking at the same time and you can see where big mental health problems can exist. It's like being on the floor of the stock exchange during a panic trading session. Each voice has a different view.
The word Ruiz uses for this confusion is a mitote.

No matter what it is called - with all of these voices going on in a person's head, it is the reason people hardly know what they want, how they want it, or when they want it. There is a voice that wants one thing and another that wants the opposite.

...and you are supposed to take the confusion - and take it personally? Sounds a bit ludicrous to me. Don't Take Anything Personally.....from others or yourself.

SIDEBAR - people are so used to all of these voices going in their head that silence and meditation are actually quite scary. If the mental chatter was reduced, clarity would be achieved. Never forget that, no matter how they present themselves, most people live in a mental construct of chaos. I have a saying, "when chaos is your companion, peace will not seem like a friend."

When we really see - other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do. Even if others lie to you, it's OK. They are doing it because they are afraid. They are afraid you will discover they are not perfect. It is painful to take off the social mask they wear.
Bold
Why do you think that "transparency" - is such a sought for commodity? It is because it is so rare...and precious. When you are in the presence of a soul that is transparent, you walk away not believing how "real" that person is. When you are a keeper of the Four Agreements, you gain that transparency.

I love how Ruiz ends this chapter in the book - "if you keep this agreement, you can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, 'I love you,' without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask for what you need. You can say 'yes' or you can say 'no' -whatever you choose- without guilt or self-judgment. You can choose to follow your heart always. Then you can be in the middle of hell and still experience inner peace and happiness. You can stay in your state of bliss, and hell will not affect you at all."

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 724




HappyUP!!! - almost an ace
Why it happened - I hit a perfect gripped down 4 iron
Why it makes me happy - I used my camera to tap this one in for the birdie. What can I say....there are few things in life that feel as good as a perfectly struck 4-iron.

(I am really glad I do this HappyUP!!! stuff....this shot feels almost as good again tonight as I type this as when I hit it. If I didn't do this recap, I probably would have forgot about it.)

HappyUP!!! - dinner with my buddy
Why it happened - my buddy responded to the Four Agreements post today
Why it makes me happy - my friend was having an issue........that had been caused by a violation of Taking Something Personally. My friend e-mailed me about what to do to fix the error. I put in my two cents......and the outcome of the situation was positive for both parties involved.

HappyUP!!! - connection with a friend from way back
Why it happened - I did a Google and located the person
Why it makes me happy - in our lives, we have people that we become friends with...and they drift away. Nothing major happens....they just drift. It was super to reconnect and find out that life turned out very positively.

HappyUP!!! - my round of golf
Why it happened - I took that lesson last week
Why it makes me happy - I shot the best score that I have had in about three months....and it easily could have been better. I was playing well back then....I started to think it may have been a fluke. My game is coming back around which is energizing me to entertain a wild dream. Then, at dinner (see above), my fortune cookie talked about having a dream and making it happen. It is weird because, for the first time, I actually disclosed my dream to my golf partner today.



JollyJottings

E-mail from D
E-mail from M
Dinner invite
Golf round
Near Ace
Second shot on 10
9 out of first 10 greens in regulation

QuoteUP!!! 11....Clint Eastwood



"I don't believe in pessimism. If something doesn't come up the way you want, forge ahead. If you think it's going to rain, it will."

Clint Eastwood
Actor and Director

Four Agreements - Don't Take Anything Personally ...Part 1


Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best

Today, we tackle the second agreement - which is tied in very closely to the first. Remember, your words effect your beliefs. You believe in words.

This one is going to take a few posts to get through- because I received so many e-mails saying, "I can't wait to hear 'taking things personally'." Once again, I will be tossing some of my thoughts on top of Don Miguel Ruiz' writings.

When we don't take anything personally - we are looking at how we process others words or their actions which we translate into words.


Right upfront - I am going to repeat something you heard when you were a kid. This didn't come out of the book but it could have

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" - some of you are believers in affirmations. You may be hesitant to use this old one.....but why? It may be easier when you realize WHY you shouldn't take anything personally.


If I call you "stupid" or "lazy" - it's not about you....it's about me. If you take my "stuff", it is going to be problematic.

I was in a car on a trip with three other guys - not long ago. I'm retired but I had my laptop up and plugged into the internet doing some stock trading. One of the guys is a person that I have known since high school but don't see that often. I like the guy but he always seemed to think that he was "cool" and better than others.

He called me a "nerd" - for being on my laptop. Now, keep in mind, I was also getting weather reports and discovering other information that we were talking about during this trip. He was actually trying to fill his need to be superior to other people. This was his "stuff." When I heard it, I immediately went to myself, "wow....he just tried to hurt me....but I know this guy and it is something that he suffers with."

You tell me - was I a nerd? Actually, I really don't care what you tell me....it doesn't matter. Do you get what I am saying here? Do you "get it"?

Yes....the "cool" people - they are one of the easiest sufferers to spot....and it gives me great joy when I ferret this type of thing out. I do not get joy from their suffering....I just need to take care of myself.

"Nutster, you are the best"...."Nutster, you are the worst" - you could tell me these same two things....you could even do it in the same day. How schizophrenic would it be for me to give either of these any type of regard?

Why do you take these things personally? - are you a victim looking for acceptance in the world? Accept yourself...it is all that you need.

Whatever you think...whatever you feel - I KNOW is your problem and not my problem.

Others have opinions based on their belief system - (and beliefs are formed in words...and we already know that people are NOT impeccable with their word) so nothing they think is really about me.

"Your words are hurting me" - is something you could hear. Well, you probably won't if you become Impeccable With Your Word. Until then, know it is not what you are saying that is hurting them. It is that they have wounds that are touched by what you say.

You see the world as a movie - you are director, producer, and main actor/actress. Everyone else is a secondary bit player in the movie....and YOU hired them. It is your movie. The way you see the movie is according to the Four Agreements. If you get mad at me, I know you are dealing with yourself. I am the excuse for you to get mad. YOU get mad because YOU are dealing with FEAR. If you are not afraid, there is no way you will get mad at me....no way you will hate me. If you are not afraid, there is no way you will ever be jealous or sad.

WARNING - this is a tough way to live. In the corporate world, I had a boss who had a "thing" for me. He would try to humiliate me in public and bring me down...even though I was deeply loved and brought in great results. I knew this person's story and there was a lot of pain behind it. As I watched his movie and saw this pain, I saw it as quite comical to how he sought to overcome his pain with power, status and prestige. I never commented or became a critic of his "film" but I was forced to view it due to the corporate structure. In the end, my unwillingness to play the role he wanted in his horror/comedy film drove me to leave my position after many years.

I could have behaved differently - and the company paid people to get me to. There comes a point, however, when you have to realize that the training you get may be good for others but it isn't going to make you a better person. This is very common in executive "development" and may play a hand in the shape of today's corporation.

Answer to WARNING - it may a tough way to live.....but there is no better way to live than to be true to yourself.

You will be true to yourself - when you Don't Take ANYTHING Personally

More parts to follow - your exercise until then? Write down this agreement in as many places as you need to. Do it....right now....yes....NOW. You will forget about this as you go through the day. You need to be acutely aware of the Black Magic that others try to force upon you. I want you to take note of when someone says something and it kind of "hits you" or wants "to stick" on you. Then, analyze it and ask, "hey, is this my stuff or is this his/her stuff?" If it isn't your stuff, either give it back or toss it in that trash can by your desk.


(Remember....to catch any of this series that you might have missed, just click the "labels" icon below where it says "Four Agreements" )


Tuesday, January 20, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 723....Change - We Can Believe In?



Change - as someone that managed people for years and specialized in managing people through change I can say one thing unequivocally: people don't like change much. They say they do but, when they realize that change requires changing oneself which is accompanied by work, they lose heart.

While not a theologian - I absolutely love the story that Exodus tells in the Bible. All of those slaves go, "Sure, Moses, get us out of here." As soon as things get a little rough, they backslide in a heartbeat. "Hey, those beatings and that food wasn't as terrible as we thought." The vision of the Promised Land fades quickly. "Who the heck is this Moses guy, anyway? He spun a great story when we were back there in the pits but THIS sure doesn't feel too good."

Me? I'm optimistic - Is The Obama the real deal? Who knows? He sure doesn't have much experience. He's a good cheerleader. He's a good motivational speaker. We need those things. We'll need more from him. Yet, the team still has to play out on the field.

You may remember my post yesterday - where I asked if you were ready to do at least a day a month of volunteer work. If you already do that, you will be asked to do more. It's funny because I just heard a commercial from The Obama wanting you to log in to a website for volunteerism.

Will you be willing to give more of yourself - when, due to economic circumstances, everyone feels that they have less?

Let's get to today's HappyUP!!!s

HappyUP!!! - golf
Why it happened - it's my life
Why it makes me happy - it was hard to imagine a more perfect day than today to be basking in the gorgeous weather.....just a stunning January day.

HappyUP!!! - e-mail from my friend A
Why it happened - A got a break in their schedule
Why it makes me happy - an exciting event coming up from my friend....and it was something I was able to offer a little insight on. I'm thrilled for A

HappyUP!!! - golf match
Why it happened - a couple of guys needed a game
Why it makes me happy - I met another new face to me at the club and ended up playing with three people outside of my circle. I didn't put up a great number but it was good company.

HappyUP!!! - hitting the first 5 greens in regulation
Why it happened - I was keeping it down the middle
Why it makes me happy - I actually was down the middle on 6 with an 8 iron and tugged it slightly or I would have hit the first 6 greens. This is an accomplishment because the first 5 holes at our club are a tough way to start.
JollyJottings

Monday, January 19, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 722 - Martin Luther King Day




A day dedicated to service
- how is that for a HappyUP!!! from the president-to-be? Time and again, he has said, "I can't do it alone." Do you smell a little "ask not what you can do for your country but what your country can do for you," coming?

It's got a nice ring to it - it worked for the original guy that coined the phrase. So, do you think that the Obama is going to ask for one day a month of volunteerism from every American?

So, what do you think? - can you get on board with a volunteer day a month...at minimum? The Obama is right....he can't do it on his own. YOU have to do the lifting.


HappyUP!!! - a good morning of phone calls
Why it happened - I had a list and a mission
Why it makes me happy - I dealt with two insurance companies and an appliance store all in about 15 minutes...no hassles...all outcomes desired...minimum hold music or frustrating voice mail phone trees.

HappyUP!!! - progress on garage cleanup
Why it happened - it was part of the mission
Why it makes me happy - I didn't get to the end of this project...but I made a nice dent and got the garbage into the trash can before the garbage truck came. This leaves more room for more stuff tomorrow and, possibly, no trips to the dump.

HappyUP!!! - hanging a shield
Why it happened - I had an idea
Why it makes me happy - OK...it was just sticking some nails over the back porch and hanging a drop cloth. It is a prototype. The main thing is that the system will work to give me a nice backstop to hit pitch shots into....aggressive pitch shots. This is going to help my short game out big time. Now, I just need to go get the more permanent items needed.

HappyUP!!! - beatin em with the Boz
Why it happened - Boz had the day off
Why it makes me happy - we made a trip to Wide World of Golf and demo'd some new clubs on the simulator. While the irons that I want don't come out for a couple of months, it was neat trying out some new stuff.

HappyUP!!! - not going to work on MLK Day
Why it happened - I retired
Why it makes me happy - I used to work for a mortgage company that was a department of a bank. The bank was closed on this national holiday. We weren't....but most of my employees would take the day off anyway. While I put the smile on my face, I never felt that this was right. If people wanted to work, we could have closed but people could come into the office...just like the weekends. No confliction for me today.

JollyJottings

Not going to work on this holiday
Smooth call to Blue Shield
Smooth call to old benefits provider
Appliance repair scheduled at a good time
Progress on the garage clean up
X22 irons in the cross hairs
Talking with P.S.
Beatin em with the Boz
My new setup is going to work

Sunday, January 18, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 721

HappyUP!!! - weight
Why it happened - cleansing
Why it makes me happy - I dropped 3 pounds last week. 2 more went off this week due to my occasional cleanse. This gets me within 5 pounds of where I like to be and 10 pounds from ideal. By following up with the cleanse and some exercise this week, I should get 2-3 more off this week. This would be a great start to the new year

HappyUP!!! - day 2 of golf tournament
Why it happened - my partner and I entered
Why it makes me happy - we shot 8 under today....and it easily could have been 12 under. We had a bad start yesterday but today proved that we really can easily be competitive in this format. I think they'll be having this one again next month....and we'll be there.

HappyUP!!! - my driver
Why it happened - I took that lesson last week
Why it makes me happy - I drove the ball very well over the two day tournament. Every one of my tee shots was very playable except for one today....and, even that one, I was taking a chance of hitting it poorly so it was no surprise. I drove the ball well enough to consider playing a tournament on this course later in the year on my own ball without a partner.

HappyUP!!! - dinner
Why it happened - a friend called me up
Why it makes me happy - I love getting together with this friend and grabbing a bite....always a good time.

HappyUP!!! - the short game
Why it happened - my touch is pretty good
Why it makes me happy - you have to have a good short game in golf. I used my hybrid 3 times and knocked it VERY close each time. I flipped a pitch shot on 10 perfectly and almost holed a pitch on 16 which left a tap in.

JollyJottings

Weight
Waking up with my cats
Day 2 of tournament

Saturday, January 17, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 720

HappyUP!!! - an eagle
Why it happened - I put together 3 great shots
Why it made me happy - my partner and I could not get anything going....just a bunch of pars through 5 holes. My drive was just short of a hazard...perfect distance. I hit my brand new hybrid for the first time from about 210 yards.....perfectly to with 12 feet. I drained the putt and thought that would get us going. While it didn't, it made me very happy at the time.

HappyUP!!! - putting the drive on 1 in the middle of the fairway
Why it happened - who knows....on top of nerves, it was COLD at 7:30 this morning
Why it makes me happy - you like to start any round but particularly a tournament round on the right foot. I got us within a wedge of the first hole.

HappyUP!!! - wedge on 17
Why it happened - I chose the right club and put a great move on it
Why it makes me happy - when it was in the air, it looked like it had a chance to go in. Now, why it landed short of the pin and went 20 feet by, who knows? It was a HappyUP!!! for awhile.

HappyUP!!! - Tad Fujikawa
Why it happened - he shot 62 in Hawaii
Why it makes me happy - Tad is 5'1". He had to Monday qualify to get into this week's PGA tournament. He barely made the cut yesterday. Today, he vaulted past everyone and is just off the lead....in his home state. Very inspirational.

Friday, January 16, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 719




Here's someone that looks to be in the midst of a HappyUP!!! - it's good ol David Crosby....one of my favorite characters in the music world.

A friend of mine - shot me the photo and I saw some contentment in the picture... kind of like a cat when it purrs.

Kind of a bummer on that arm brace - for his fretting hand. It's been a rough trip for the Crosb all of these years.


HappyUP!!! - breakfast with a very special person
Why it happened - I set it up
Why it makes me happy - it was so good to visit with this person that I have known and worked with for so long. We had a nice, real conversation....just a very joyful person to be around.

HappyUP!!!
- three birdies from the GOLD tees
Why it happened - I played some very good wedge shots
Why it makes me happy - many golf courses have easy par 5's.....not mine. If you are fortunate enough to position yourself for "easy" birdies, you then need to execute the delicate shots that give you the birdie. I hit a nice wedge to 15 feet and made a putt on 5. I knocked a hybrid just off the edge on 12 and then played a smart little "wedge" hybrid shot up to a few feet. On 15, I chased an iron up to the edge rather than trying to "go for it" in two. The shot was to an elevated green and I tried a shot I have been working on....the spinner. I hit it perfectly up to a tap in birdie.

HappyUP!!! - holing out a bunker shot
Why it happened - a great shot and a bit of luck
Why it makes me happy - I was making a mess of the second hole. Drive in the water...drop to a terrible lie...chunk.....full on iron into the bunker......the meter on this taxi was running full blast. UNTIL....I played a perfect shot that found it's way into the cup.


JollyJottings

Up and down on 1
Holing a sandshot
3 birdies
Solid golf
Glorious weather
A phone call from Dom
4 Agreements Series
David Crosby picture

Thursday, January 15, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 718...Cleanse is On



"Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think."

Benjamin Disraeli
1804-1881, British Prime Minister

....and the predominant thought that I have is of being about 7-9 pounds lighter in a little over a week. It works every time.


HappyUP!!! - morning root juice

Why it happened - it's day 2 of the choice I make to cleanse annually

Why it makes me happy - this concoction actually tastes kind of good this morning. I use Isagenix as my 9 day program. The first two days involve sucking down this liquid 4 times a day....and that is about it. When tomorrow rolls around, I'll actually start to see the results (I'll leave the graphics of what that is out of the post). Just trust me...it's a good thing. After the two days, I slide into a program that provides a bit more nourishment. At the end of 9 days, I will have dropped 7-10 pounds and have a different outlook toward my daily nutrition. It's a good thing....it's not that hard...some willpower is involved but nothing major once you know that the results will be there. My mom used to do something similar by going on a "cabbage soup diet" every so often. This is a little more friendly.

HappyUP!!! - talking with SB
Why it happened - SB reached out to me
Why it makes me happy - this is an old college contact.....college was....uh....hmmm...well....it was a little bit ago. We had a great conversation and I'll be getting a dinner invitation soon.

HappyUP!!! - mentoring a new club
Why it happened - I volunteered
Why it makes me happy - I have been in Toastmasters for well over 20 years. A local employer is starting up their own club. Today was the first meeting that they have had and it made me realize how much I know (a HappyUP!!!) and how eager and excited the group is to learn and improve (a HappyUP!!!). Put those two forces together and it becomes a HarmoniousHappyUP!!!

JollyJottings

Pilates
Gorgeous weather
Mentoring
Hitting balls
Driving the convertible
Hearing from Steve B
Weight dropping

Four Agreements - Be Impeccable With Your Word



Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best

Today - we take on the first of the four agreements. Much of the discussion that immediately follows is directly from the chapter with my own commentary thrown in

This is the most important - and the most difficult of the four. Your intentions manifest through your words. Your word is a force that you put into the world. If you think of the words of someone like Hitler, you get a feeling for how powerful this force can be.

The human mind is fertile ground - you plant a seed, a thought, and it grows. The word is the seed.

You are a magician - you constantly cast spells on people with your words. Today, I will be making my first appearance at a new Toastmasters Club as a mentor. I will need to be impeccable with my word here...big time.

By hooking our attention - the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief....for better or worse.

Your beliefs are formed by words - what if you say to yourself, "I am stupid." Are you really? It gets down to what you believe....and you believe in words.

Impeccability - comes from the latin, pecatus, which means "sin." The "im" means "without." If something is impeccable, it is without sin. Forget the religious conotation around the word, "sin." "Sin" is anything you do that goes against yourself. From this context, sin transcends moral or religious judgement to commonsense. Sin is about rejecting yourself and self-rejection is the biggest sin you can create.

If I call you "stupid" - you will hate me and I have thus used the word against myself.

Gossip.....revenge with words - all will come back against yourself

When you become impeccable with your word - you become immune from anyone casting a negative spell on you. Your mind is no longer fertile ground for this black magic and becomes fertile for words of love (does that sound mushy? Psssst....shhhhh.....c'mon....admit it...deep down you want more of that, don't you? Your secret is safe with me).

Your exercise: get a little notepad or your journal and keep it handy to capture your thoughts and observations for the next couple of days and enter them in the same place. Note them to yourself only even though they may be in regards to how others do in this category. Think of someone that you admire....how do they do with their words. Finally, you may want to get a post it note, a rubber band, or something that reminds you to be on the lookout. It is easy to read this and say you will be on the lookout but, without a string around your finger, you slide right back in to how you were. Remember, we are talking about making a change, here. Any change means getting out of your routine.

Feel free to leave a comment here - or to e-mail me directly. Let's see what you discover.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 717




HappyUP!!! - day 1 of the cleanse is over

Why it happened - I started my annual cleanse

<----won't be seeing this HappyUP!!! sight for the next 8 days Why it makes me happy - I believe that day 1 is the worst....at least from my recollection. I was out on the golf course so I wasn't thinking about much except getting the ball into the hole. I'll be heading off to bed and I'm feeling pretty good for not eating anything but drinking some root juice today. HappyUP!!! - golf with the assistant pro
Why it happened - there was a game today
Why it makes me happy - I hadn't had a chance to tee it up with the assistant. The guy can play! It's always great to play with good players

HappyUP!!! - my play
Why it happened - I had that lesson yesterday
Why it makes me happy - this swing change is going to grab a little quicker than some. While my score wasn't as low as it should have been, it was still good compared to recent history

HappyUP!!! - setting up brekko
Why it happened - I threw out the invitation
Why it makes me happy - I haven't seen this person in months and it is a person dear to me. Friday, we will be getting together.

HappyUP!!! - e-mailing with a buddy going through a life change
Why it happened - there was a layoff
Why it makes me happy - the person's layoff....nobody's layoff is EVER a HappyUP!!!...let's be clear about that. I was just happy that the person is taking it pretty well.



JollyJottings

Thinking with pride about how I carried myself
Coffee with my friend
E-mailing with a buddy going through a life change
Thankful of limiting stock market exposure
Pilates workout
Started cleanse
Two birdies
Sand save
Skin
Front 9
Shot on 16
Punch shot on 8......wedge on 5.....flop shot on 7....
E-mail from my friend, SB

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

HappyUP!!! Day 716




HappyUP!!!
- Falling Into A Golf Lesson
Why it happened - I got lucky
Why it makes me happy - I was running errands so I couldn't play golf today. I did have time to dash out to hit some range balls. When I walked into the shop, the head pro AND the assistant pro were both there. This is kind of rare. I saw this as an opportunity to get that tune up I have been needing. "Hey Pro, what are you doing NOW?" Off we went....

HappyUP!!! - The Golf Lesson
Why it happened - see above
Why it makes me happy - while I am not happy that I didn't go see my pro a month ago, there is nothing I can do about that. The HappyUP!!! lies in some FAIRLY minor adjustments to some bad posture I have fallen into. I think I can get these changes incorporated fairly quickly. MUCH more power with less effort lies ahead.

HappyUP!!! - Toastmasters
Why it happened - it was an on week
Why it makes me happy - we had a guest today....that was impressed enough to join. We put on a good show today. The overall vibe was extremely upbeat.

HappyUP!!! - call from NS
Why it happened - NS was thinking of me
Why it makes me happy - it is always good to talk to this long time friend. I am so happy that I got the call so we could catch up.

JollyJottings

Toastmasters
Toastmasters Guest
Finding a Christmas present
Smog passed easily
Opportunity to get golf lesson
Product of golf lesson